March 2018 Newsletter

#MeToo – What?

These past few months have been a whirlwind of upheaval around women’s empowerment and their place in the world – culturally, financially, professionally and personally.

It’s been messy. It’s looked ugly at times. It’s even been called “The War on Men” by those who are still stuck in an old paradigm.

I’ve spoken at length with women in my generation, and in my mom’s. In all innocence, they continue to ask, “Well, what was she wearing?” “Did she ask for it in some way?” “Was she drinking?”

These cultural messages run so deep in our consciousness. It’s almost impossible to completely make the leap from where we were this time last year to where we stand now.

At a concert by First Aid Kit several weeks ago, these young female Swedish folk singers performed a song mid-set about all the questions that haven’t traditionally been asked of those abusing their power sexually.

After it was over, Klara stopped to talk to the audience about why they’d written that new song.

She explained how important they felt it was to speak up and provide solidarity between their music and this grassroots movement.

Then something strange happened.

The wave of polite applause began to rumble as everyone rose to their feet. And a slow roar of approval built to a crescendo across this huge auditorium.

It was definitely a mixed audience – men and women, young and old. Yet as I looked around I saw that NO ONE remained silent or sitting.

That’s when I welled up with gratitude for what was clearly a seismic shift in awareness manifesting before my eyes.

Reflecting on my work with women’s empowerment circles for the last two decades, I realized that the culture was finally catching up with me.

It was awe-inspiring and humbling.

Our work now is about reclaiming our power in the face of abuse. It’s for women and men everywhere who’ve been marginalized or taken advantage of.

Guilt is thought to be a major driver in our culture. I believe fear and shame are the deeper pressures that have kept people silent and oppressed for so long.

When everyone can come to the table without this fear or shame, an opening for healing occurs.

There’s a lot to learn in the process. Yet this is the path before us now.

Are you with me?

In solidarity,

Suzanne Scurlock-Durana's Signature