February 2018 Newsletter

For More Love, Start With Yourself

For the last 35 years, I’ve been exploring what creates authentic, deep connection within ourselves — and between ourselves and others.

Since the only person I have any control over is myself, most of my detective work has been with my own inner healing.

I haven’t always been successful. Yet my failures have been some of my biggest teachers. So I do my best to celebrate them as well.

That’s what I mean when I talk about this work as being an “inside job.”

One of my most potent explorations on this topic is known as “Healing the Internal Resistance to Life,” or Exploration 3 of my Healing From the Core curriculum.

I created it some 25 years ago to help me find what fed my soul.

Yet it was purely from my deepest intuitive wisdom. The research wasn’t there yet.

Today, we know definitively that we require and thrive on internal and external connection. It’s vital to our health and well-being.

Offering yourself compassion feeds the foundation that bubbles over to everyone else in your life.

Which makes February the perfect time of year to practice. Because in our culture, February celebrates love.

How can you take better care of yourself so your inner well stays primed and your heart remains full?

When you treat yourself and your painful places with kindness, everyone benefits.

You heal. And you have more to share with those you love.

The circle is endless. And it grows effortlessly when you take time to set your priorities — so your cup overflows with tenderness.

I was sharing in a class last week how I use my inner-awareness flags to help me stay on track for loving myself.

When I notice myself becoming less grounded or centered, I gently remind myself to head back in the other direction.

One of my students raised her hand and said …

“Oh my goodness, I do the same thing.

“But instead of gently reminding myself to correct my course, I yell at myself for losing my way. And I chastise myself until I feel ashamed.

“That causes a whole cascade of negativity that moves me even further off my center. And it’s all in how I speak to myself!”

How do you speak to yourself internally?

Do you do so with kindness or with meanness?

Are you gentle or are you harsh?

Take a moment now and commit to using this month to change that pattern.

It takes practice. But we can all learn how to cultivate this gentleness and kindness within.

From there it naturally flows out to others. And it creates that deep, authentic connection in community we all thrive from.


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