December 2017 Newsletter

Calming the Crush of the Holidays

As the days get shorter and the holiday season unfolds, I find myself wanting to curl up in front of a warm fire and spend time with my family and friends.

What’s a girl to do with these opposing desires?

First of all, listen and act on them.

When I listen to my own inner rhythms vs. what the media tells me to do, my life works better. I’m more energized and clear-headed.

I find myself steering clear of draining circumstances. And I have healthier boundaries in most of my interactions.

But what keeps us from listening to and acting on our inner wisdom — especially around the holidays?

To start with, our hidden expectations. You know, the ones we’re not conscious of (although they can can ruin a good time).

The holidays are fraught with expectations, outdated traditions, and the “should” and “ought to” voices in our heads.

Thankfully I made the decision years ago to do the holidays in a way that felt more sane and pleasurable to me and those I love.

I got creative. No crazy shopping. No huge piles of gifts. No overload of sugar or parties.

I began saying “yes” to what truly nurtured my family and me.

It hasn’t been perfect. And some years have been better than others. But simply remembering the process of conscious decision-making really helps.

When I stop and check inside myself before making a decision, my inner wisdom signals me clearly as to whether I need a quiet evening. Or a lively one filled with friends.

So, take the time to check in. Then allow yourself to do what your inner wisdom is asking for …

Whether that’s nestling in front of a good fire alone. Or gathering with friends for a meal. Or singing and taking in the twinkling lights in your area.

Take the plunge this year and create your own traditions.

The key is to ask yourself and those you love, “What would nourish us most in this time we have together?”

Then listen to each individual. And create something that works for all of you.

Wishing you the best this holiday season!


Suzanne Scurlock-Durana's Signature