December 2015 Newsletter

Listen to Your Inner Rhythm

A family by the fireplaceAs the days are getting shorter and the holiday season unfolds, I find myself wanting to both curl up solo and read in front of a warm fire, and spend time with all my friends and family. What’s a girl to do with these opposing desires? First of all, listen and act on them!

When I listen to my own inner rhythms vs. what the media is telling me to do, my life works better. I am more energized and clear headed. I find myself steering clear of energy draining circumstances and having healthier boundaries in most of my interactions.

What keeps us from listening and acting from our inner wisdom? Well, to start with, our hidden expectations. You know, the ones that we are not conscious of, yet really can ruin a good time. The holidays are fraught with expectations, outdated traditions, and the “should” and “ought to” voices in our heads.

Years ago I made a decision to do the holidays in a way that felt more sane and pleasurable to me and those I loved. I got creative. It has helped immensely. No crazy shopping. No huge piles of gifts. No overload of sugar or parties that are primarily laden with those things. I began saying ‘yes’ to what truly nurtured my family and me. It has not been perfect, and truly some years have been better than others. If I forget to have healthy boundaries, the holidays can be pretty chaotic and draining.

Remember the process of conscious decision-making – it really helps! When I stop and check inside myself before making a decision, my inner wisdom signals me clearly as to whether I am feeling like a quiet evening or one filled with loved ones. So, take the time to check in – then allow yourself time to do what your inner wisdom is asking for, be it nestling in front of a good fire solo or gathering with friends that nurture you for a meal or singing or taking in the lights in your area.

The key is to ask yourself and those you love, “What would nourish us most in this time we have together?” Then listen to each person and create something that works for all. Take the plunge this year and create your own traditions…ones that can make this holiday season the best ever.

Wishing you the best this holiday season!
Warmest regards,
Suzanne Scurlock-Durana's Signature